Reflections

Okay - I was thinking the other day of all of the things I have learned now that I'm a parent. I will admit that some of these things I may have figured out later in life.......but I doubt it, I'm not that smart. :)

Anyhoo here are just a few things I've discovered about myself and life:
1. What works for one child may or may not work for other children. Same could be said about co-workers.
2. If you're always in a hurry to get to the next step you'll miss out on the world going on around you. I was so anxious for Stephen to reach the next mile stone as an infant that I completely forgot to enjoy just the day to day activities.
3. The dirtier the child the more worn out and happier she/he'll be. Seriously - they're just clothes and soap/water will clean them up and the kid. Isn't the point of being a kid to have fun and enjoy life? What better way then to go outside and play and not worry about if mom/dad are going to be upset that your clothes are dirty?
4. Doing things because others like them - you might find out you actually enjoyed your self. This is true in adult to adult relationships and parent to child relationships. I've done many things I wasn't overly thrilled about for my ex-H and Keith - but in the end we had a pretty good time. Same for my kids - let the laundry or dishes wait, and go dig up some worms or go on a bug hunt. Not my favorite - but the smiles, looks of awe and giggles are all worth it.
5. Having kids does NOT mean you have to completely grow up. Seriously here - when playing with your kids (or nieces/nephews) let the little kid in you out. We all need a chance to unwind and/or relax - and letting your inner child out is a great way to to this. As an added bonus the kids you're playing with will think you're a GOD!!

Oh, I know I still have a lot to learn and luckily, as Keith tells me all the time, I have the patience to wait until I do.